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This blog is to "Tell my story" of standards that are most important in my life, how I have acquired those standards and how they have changed over the years.
My story...If I had to pick one of the most important standards in my life it would be that of "respect" - I believe people should be considerate and respectful; basically "do unto others as you would have them do unto you" and a motto that should be practiced daily. I truly believe if you would not like that done to you, then why would you want to do that to someone else? In certain situations, I will ask myself, "Would I like someone to do that to me?" If my answer is no, then I try to avoid that situation. Honesty would be my second of my most important standards. Being honest is a standard that is intertwined with respect since you would not have respect for yourself or others if you are not honest in your actions; upright, fair, genuine. My third, which is also intertwined with my first and second of most important standards is that of sincerity; mean what you say. All of these in combination lend itself to a path of intertwined standards that compliments one another and if used together establish positive traits to build integrity in one's character. This not only helps how you feel within as a person from a positive perspective, but also determines how those view you from the outside; whether you can be trusted, respected or if you mean what you say.
I was one of the most fortunate women in the world to have been blessed by three wonderful men in my life; my father and my two sons. I was reared in a traditional, kind and loving family that instilled respectfulness, honesty, rationalism, inspiration, sincerity, trust, support, etc. I was able to share 51 years of my life with my dad and was able to adopt his philosophies, as well as, instill those in my children.
In addition to the qualitative use and commitment to these standards of character, my dad was an effective listener and always took time to truly listen. He was also gifted at choosing his words and choosing those that would have the best outcome when responding. Normally as a result of conversation with my father you would have a positive takeaway that was filled with confidence, insight, wisdom, direction and inspiration. In hindsight, I guess in reality he was an effective critical thinker and a leader; never taking any college courses. In fact, he didn't graduate from high school. He had married my mom when he was 15 and she being 16. He raised six children; all to be successful. In fact, the week that he had just recently passed on, he would have celebrated his 73rd wedding anniversary. This displays his lifetime commitment to standards and values.
I often told my father how much I loved him. But not only that, I also told him how much I respected him and how much I looked up to him for what he represented and stood for, as well as, the qualities he instilled in me. Not to mention he was also my "silent champion".
My dad gave me a lifetime gift. It wasn't the normally packaged type of gift that might sit on a shelf. Rather it was an invisible gift that only a person receiving that gift could see the value over time. A person's character is not something that can be physically packaged and tied with a bow. It is something that is instilled and either taught or used over, and over again. I guess you could say my dad was a teacher; a teacher of character. I guess you could say I was his intern, and my children the students. For my dad taught me, in which I learned from him, and we both taught my children over the years. My dad is still teaching me, but from a much farther realm of the universe; however, his legacy continues - and it is now my job to keep teaching what I have been taught.
Standards shouldn't change throughout the years, maybe how they are applied may fluctuate through the years. A standard is a standard - if they changed they weren't a standard. Over the years, the only things that have changed with respect to my standards is not the standard itself but the challenges facing us due to the fast paced changing world with respect to values and morals; making our job harder. For me, what has changed is who is now teaching the standards --now I am the teacher, my sons are the interns, and my grandchildren are the students. I can only hope that I do as good a job as a teacher as my dad did while he was here on this earth -- and my sons do as good as I did as the new interns -- so that my grandchildren and the people we meet may keep the legacy going that was built so hard by my father.
If you don't stand for something than - who really are you? Then are you really you or have you become someone else?
You have to believe in yourself and commit to your standards that will make you the best person you can be!